Thursday, June 16, 2016

Dealing with big issues while you're dating

So occasionally it's not all fun and games. Sometimes you're dating a girl and something big and horrible happens, a brutish finger poked through the paper mache world you've created of restaurants, movies, and white wine in order to have sex with her.

In every way that is not something a hipster would say on stage during beat poetry night at the bar, dating is a journey into finding out who you are. But you're going to ask questions of yourself you didn't expect. "Am I loved, or just needed?" is the one I hear most often inside my head, but on the other hand, what's the worst case scenario here? You're someone worth needing. Tell yourself that and move on with life.
"Asia Fit L - that won't offend anyone" said the designers.

This isn't a serious blog. I will now include a picture of a label from the long underwear I bought today to climb Mt. Rainier next month. I've never climbed anything before, partially because I like it warm and tropical and there are no mountains in Miami, and partially because I have the kind of lungs that prefer it at sea level. And I've never helped anyone through anything like what the woman I'm dating right now is going through. But sometimes you just have to put on your big boy pants and head up the mountain.

Ask yourself at what point the girl you're dating gets to veto your trip to the summit. Is there a point where that happens? If not, what does that mean? 

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